Before I existed – before I knew I existed – my mother loved me. When I lived in her body only as one half of a person – as an egg, waiting to be fertilized – her body nurtured my pre-formed being, sheltering it deep within her. Later on, even before she knew she was pregnant, this instinctive shelter continued. She loved me in the silent, soft preparations of her body to house me. She loved me in the miraculous dividing of cells, the hosting of a tiny organism, the cushioning and protecting of my life from its first single-celled moments right on through the last and most painful contraction that brought me into her world.
And in that world – beyond the dark walls of her womb – her hands were the first to caress me. Her body – spent from the effort of birthing me – cried out to serve me still more. When I arrived, wrinkled and angry from the indignities of birthing, she wrapped me tightly, offered herself as my source of comfort and food, and joyed in my taxing existence.
And I had done nothing to merit this care! Not a thing, save live – and even that feat took place thanks to her.
She has loved me instinctively, passionately, and fiercely when no one else knew my name. She has loved me when I brought her nothing but grief. She has loved me every heartbeat of my life until this one … and she will love me until her own heart stops beating.
Perhaps this knowledge explains why, when all other loves fail, even the worst of criminals still clings to the love of his mother. It is unmerited, illogical, and pure. It is the Grace that drives hosts of dark demons away.
Perhaps this also explains why God cannot be entirely male. Even the Christian Bible, at time, reckons God’s love as that of a woman. “How often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings” (Matthew 23:37). “As apostles of Christ … we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children.” (I Thessalonians 2:7) What else, after all, could so aptly describe the kind of unmerited fixation with which this Deity regards us?
Before we were born, He adored us.
Before anyone – even our own mothers – knew our names, He carefully fashioned our beings.
Before we had hair, eyes, fingers or toes, He wired the circuits in our brains. His gaze bathed us in a beauty not of our own choosing – in the beauty that fills the eye of the Beholder. “Whoever touches you touches the apple of [God’s] eye” (Zechariah 2:8) He does not demand that we do anything other than live in order to receive of this love, and even the gift of life came from Him.
When I watch my own mom – when I see the way she cares for me – I notice several things.
First, I see that no matter how old I get, she still tends to my needs. “You’re too skinny,” she’ll say, time to time. Or, “You work to hard – take a rest!” Constantly, without prodding, she drops little tokens of love in my lap – gifts that only a mother would offer..
Second, I see that this lifestyle of love is instinctive. I could no more ask her to stop caring for me than I could say, ‘stop your own pulse!’ It happens almost without her knowledge, just like breathing – and that is what makes it so miraculous.
Third, I note that even my mom has a mother. When I mentioned Mother’s Day to my mom, she just laughed. “I haven’t even thought about it for myself! I was busy figuring out how to honor my mother instead!”
Again, this points me to God. Returning His unconditional love is the drive inside each of us. Just as we all have a mother, we all – every one – have this God. And although we may have opportunity to pour out His grace on others, the real impetus to do so stems from the grace He originally poured out over us.
The equation’s simplicity leaves me stunned. Mother-love equals God-love. Mother-love equals grace. Whether I am conscious of how I give it out or not, I fully admit to receiving it. And that admission creates in me the same vacuum that even hardened criminals feel when they think of this grace-gift. I must honor my mother. I must thank her!
True, in both relationships, I can never reciprocate fully. I’ll always be ‘behind’ in the love-giving race. But who cares? In human terms, I know my mom certainly doesn’t! She’s just pleased that I want to be with her – to talk with her – to call her up on the phone. Her motivation for loving me is independent of my own actions.
And I believe that’s God’s attitude, too. His love is the one constant in an otherwise shifty-eyed world. His love is the pole on which I can hang all my hopes and yes, even my failures, too. While I may waver and doubt, His love remains the strongest force in my life – drawing me in – drawing me back – giving me worth – giving me hope. And as it does so, I will grow. First like a baby inside the womb, then like a baby about to be born, and finally, when He is ready, like a baby about to enter a whole new universe entirely – one in which I can communicate with and begin to understand some of His dramatic gestures of love. And as I grow and learn, my love for this Mother-God will grow, too.
I look forward to those days of learning. I enjoy living in them now. And I believe, in eternity, I’ll find even more reasons to love Him. But for now, this simple picture of His love in my mother’s is enough. It rocks my world, after all. It makes sense out of so much. I love my mom – fiercely, loyally, but not without cause. She loved me first – and has always loved me far better than I can return. In the same way, I love my God – just like the song says … ‘because He first loved me.’
True, this is one of those relationship in which I can never ‘win’ at being the most loving.
And, just this once, that’s okay. That imbalance, after all, is what makes my world go round. Just like my relationship with my mom, it gives me life. And this Mother’s Day, I’m more aware of that than ever.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.
Happy Mother’s Day, God.
And Happy Mother’s Day to all of you dear mothers out there who do it, day in and day out, without thinking twice about how. That’s God in you … working outwards. And I want you to know that I see it. I love you and I’m proud of you … and each of your children are incredibly blessed to belong to you. Now go put your feet up and thank God for the privilege of mothering them! (Eating chocolate will help you appreciate the privilege even more – I promise!)
And in that world – beyond the dark walls of her womb – her hands were the first to caress me. Her body – spent from the effort of birthing me – cried out to serve me still more. When I arrived, wrinkled and angry from the indignities of birthing, she wrapped me tightly, offered herself as my source of comfort and food, and joyed in my taxing existence.
And I had done nothing to merit this care! Not a thing, save live – and even that feat took place thanks to her.
She has loved me instinctively, passionately, and fiercely when no one else knew my name. She has loved me when I brought her nothing but grief. She has loved me every heartbeat of my life until this one … and she will love me until her own heart stops beating.
Perhaps this knowledge explains why, when all other loves fail, even the worst of criminals still clings to the love of his mother. It is unmerited, illogical, and pure. It is the Grace that drives hosts of dark demons away.
Perhaps this also explains why God cannot be entirely male. Even the Christian Bible, at time, reckons God’s love as that of a woman. “How often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings” (Matthew 23:37). “As apostles of Christ … we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children.” (I Thessalonians 2:7) What else, after all, could so aptly describe the kind of unmerited fixation with which this Deity regards us?
Before we were born, He adored us.
Before anyone – even our own mothers – knew our names, He carefully fashioned our beings.
Before we had hair, eyes, fingers or toes, He wired the circuits in our brains. His gaze bathed us in a beauty not of our own choosing – in the beauty that fills the eye of the Beholder. “Whoever touches you touches the apple of [God’s] eye” (Zechariah 2:8) He does not demand that we do anything other than live in order to receive of this love, and even the gift of life came from Him.
When I watch my own mom – when I see the way she cares for me – I notice several things.
First, I see that no matter how old I get, she still tends to my needs. “You’re too skinny,” she’ll say, time to time. Or, “You work to hard – take a rest!” Constantly, without prodding, she drops little tokens of love in my lap – gifts that only a mother would offer..
Second, I see that this lifestyle of love is instinctive. I could no more ask her to stop caring for me than I could say, ‘stop your own pulse!’ It happens almost without her knowledge, just like breathing – and that is what makes it so miraculous.
Third, I note that even my mom has a mother. When I mentioned Mother’s Day to my mom, she just laughed. “I haven’t even thought about it for myself! I was busy figuring out how to honor my mother instead!”
Again, this points me to God. Returning His unconditional love is the drive inside each of us. Just as we all have a mother, we all – every one – have this God. And although we may have opportunity to pour out His grace on others, the real impetus to do so stems from the grace He originally poured out over us.
The equation’s simplicity leaves me stunned. Mother-love equals God-love. Mother-love equals grace. Whether I am conscious of how I give it out or not, I fully admit to receiving it. And that admission creates in me the same vacuum that even hardened criminals feel when they think of this grace-gift. I must honor my mother. I must thank her!
True, in both relationships, I can never reciprocate fully. I’ll always be ‘behind’ in the love-giving race. But who cares? In human terms, I know my mom certainly doesn’t! She’s just pleased that I want to be with her – to talk with her – to call her up on the phone. Her motivation for loving me is independent of my own actions.
And I believe that’s God’s attitude, too. His love is the one constant in an otherwise shifty-eyed world. His love is the pole on which I can hang all my hopes and yes, even my failures, too. While I may waver and doubt, His love remains the strongest force in my life – drawing me in – drawing me back – giving me worth – giving me hope. And as it does so, I will grow. First like a baby inside the womb, then like a baby about to be born, and finally, when He is ready, like a baby about to enter a whole new universe entirely – one in which I can communicate with and begin to understand some of His dramatic gestures of love. And as I grow and learn, my love for this Mother-God will grow, too.
I look forward to those days of learning. I enjoy living in them now. And I believe, in eternity, I’ll find even more reasons to love Him. But for now, this simple picture of His love in my mother’s is enough. It rocks my world, after all. It makes sense out of so much. I love my mom – fiercely, loyally, but not without cause. She loved me first – and has always loved me far better than I can return. In the same way, I love my God – just like the song says … ‘because He first loved me.’
True, this is one of those relationship in which I can never ‘win’ at being the most loving.
And, just this once, that’s okay. That imbalance, after all, is what makes my world go round. Just like my relationship with my mom, it gives me life. And this Mother’s Day, I’m more aware of that than ever.
Happy Mother’s Day, Mom.
Happy Mother’s Day, God.
And Happy Mother’s Day to all of you dear mothers out there who do it, day in and day out, without thinking twice about how. That’s God in you … working outwards. And I want you to know that I see it. I love you and I’m proud of you … and each of your children are incredibly blessed to belong to you. Now go put your feet up and thank God for the privilege of mothering them! (Eating chocolate will help you appreciate the privilege even more – I promise!)
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